Freedom rarely looks how you expect it to.
A love letter for anyone craving change but terrified to start.
12 months ago, I made a decision that changed my life. I decided to commit to a new journey…one where I had to become more assertive about how I want my work life to feel.
You see, I quit a high-paying job that looked like a dream on paper (but was causing me regular panic attacks). Immediately after, I started driving for Uber aiming to make connections, provide safe rides, and most of all have free time to think about what I actually want while still bringing in a little money. I won’t lie–deep down I hoped one day I’d just run into a millionaire who cared about my story and wanted to help me so I could stop driving 😆 What was supposed to be a cute 90-day summer exploration became winter desperation, y’all.
I told the Universe I was ready for freedom. I thought most days would feel like liberation, and some did. Other days I felt deeply lonely, doubtful, and I wondered if I did the wrong thing. Yet, I wouldn’t trade it.
Little by little, I’ve been building something that feels so me and that pays my bills. Here’s what the past year has taught me about asking for what you want, getting it, and dealing with the aftermath:
✨ The Losses (every loss is a lesson)
I watched some friends lose faith and interest in me. Since I have chosen a nontraditional path, I can rub people the wrong way. I have strong feelings and beliefs, and I’m not always interested in things I once was. Sometimes people only want you in a container they feel safe putting you in. I’ve had to practice not taking this personal because quite frankly other people don’t have to like what I’m doing or maintain this great faith in me. They also don’t have to live my life, so I have to proceed doing things I’m deeply proud of. One day, it’ll all make sense and they don’t have to be an active participant in my life when it does.
Not every idea takes off immediately or at all, but that doesn’t mean just give up and delete everything. I’ve had to train myself to be consistent with things I try in business vs. writing them off as ineffective before the reactions to my actions get a chance to show up. Even when I feel isolated or overlooked, I’ve learned to quickly transmute that into “how can I show up today? What feels good and important to share or create, and how can I have fun with that process?”
Of course I miss the stability of a steady paycheck–who wouldn’t? There are weeks when I don’t know exactly how my account is about to look. I’ve had to develop spiritually-rooted rituals that help me feel safe in my body and remind me that it’s perfectly reasonable for me to want a healthy, balanced work life. So I press on…and the deeper my trust in myself, the more money I make. That’s key 🔑
✨ The Wins (one thing about me, every win counts)
I’ve helped thousands feel seen across LinkedIn, Instagram, and TikTok by sharing unfiltered reflections of my experience working in corporate. It’s easy to think you’re crazy for refusing to endure something so normalized, but when we create the space to talk about it and see it for what it really is, things shift. Slowly but surely.
I launched my Etsy shop which is stocked with digital tools that help creative professionals discover what they truly want plus access mindfulness goodies that make their dreams that much easier to pursue.
I’ve been healing old wounds around work, hyper-independence, success, worthiness, and self-trust. I celebrate small sales, new connections, my own commitment, quick client payments, a deepening relationship with my partner, and more. I’ve really accepted that I get to define success for myself and that burnout, or even going viral, are NOT required to achieve it.
Here’s what you need to know: maybe your version of freedom won’t look like quitting your job to drive for Uber. Maybe it’s setting a boundary this week, applying for a role you actually want, or finally starting that project you keep thinking about.
The point is, when you ask the Universe for freedom it usually hands you an invitation to change. And it’s okay if it feels messy at first.
Fear of the unknown is real, but courage will lead you to your heart’s desires. If you’re craving change but aren’t sure where to start, you don’t have to figure it out all by yourself. I’ve made it my mission to help folks like us reclaim their time, their confidence, and their creativity one step at a time.
If you’re not exploring your options right now, please accept this Corporate America Survival Guide so you can continue to hold onto your sanity, your dreams, and your drive for something better.
If you just love my work and want to be sweet to me today, consider dropping a tip here. May it return to you tenfold. Turns out, the freedom I asked for came dressed as a business and a whole new relationship with myself.
Rooting for you, love bug,
Ty 🤎




You keep speaking to my soul 🥹🫶🏾✨